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Burning Up,
Frozen Out
What Every Man Needs to Know About the Menopause (But No One Told You)
★★★★★
"An invaluable manual - no married man should approach middle age without it."
Giles Coren, broadcaster and Times columnist
Begin with a free chapter
Start making sense of midlife - today
Get instant access to a free chapter from Burning Up, Frozen Out to help you understand what’s going on, why it matters, and what you can do about it. In this chapter you’ll discover:
What drives the male midlife wobble - from hormones and stress to identity and purpose
How to tell the difference between low testosterone, burnout and a full-blown midlife crisis
Why feeling flat, foggy or disconnected doesn’t mean you’re broken - and what to do next
Simple actions you can take now to feel calmer, clearer and more in control
Why getting yourself steadier is the first step to supporting your partner better
About The book
The first practical guide to menopause - written for men
Most men feel completely unprepared for the menopause. Changes can arrive fast and without warning - affecting mood, sleep, energy, intimacy and connection - often leaving you desperate to help, but unsure where to start. Burning Up, Frozen Out is the first practical, expert-led guide to perimenopause written specifically for men. It’s for you if:
Your partner is struggling and you feel out of your depth
You want to support her properly, without saying the wrong thing or making things worse
You’re tired of guessing, Googling and second-guessing yourself
Structured around three clear sections - Knowledge, Communication and Power - Burning Up, Frozen Out helps you understand what’s really happening in her body, brain and hormones, communicate more calmly and confidently at home and with doctors, and take practical action around sleep, stress, exercise, nutrition and sex - so you can feel more grounded, capable and connected during a challenging stage of life.
Part I
Knowledge
This is your crash course in what’s really going on with her body, brain and hormones - so you can stop guessing and start joining the dots. You’ll get clear answers to the questions no one ever warns you you’ll be asking, and quickly realise that none of this is her fault - or yours.You’ll also discover something reassuring: midlife changes don’t just happen to women. Men’s hormones, mood, motivation and confidence shift too. Once you understand what you’re both dealing with, things start to make sense - and that’s when life starts to gets easier.
PART II
Communication
You’ve got the knowledge. Now it’s time to do something with it - and that starts with talking. Opening up about feelings, fears or frustrations might feel uncomfortable at first, but once you know how to have the right conversations, in the right way, at the right time, things begin to shift.This section shows you how to talk calmly and constructively, without things escalating or shutting down - and how to handle the most important conversations you may face together, including when she needs medical support.
Part III
Power
Understanding and communication change how you see things. This final section changes how you both feel and function - with simple, achievable actions around sleep, stress, exercise and nutrition that restore energy, build resilience and help you move forward together.And yes, we talk about sex too - how to bring back closeness, desire and spark, so your relationship doesn’t just survive this stage, but comes out stronger on the other side.
Meet the authors
Joe Warner
Joe is an award-winning journalist, best-selling author and former editor-in-chief of Men’s Fitness magazine, with more than 20 years’ experience covering health, fitness and wellbeing.
Reviews
Praise for Burning Up, Frozen Out
"Men - ignore this book at your peril. It could save your sanity - and your relationship."
Jon Lipsey, editor Men’s Fitness
"Every man should read and learn - this book has been so well-written and impressively researched." Dr Louise Newson, GP and leading menopause specialist
"A clear, practical and relatable guide - it will make a real difference for so many couples." Rhiannon Lambert, Sunday Times best-selling author and founder of Rhitrition
"Compassionate, and brilliantly practical - give couples the tools to face menopause together with confidence, understanding, and real connection." Nigel Denby, author, broadcaster, and co-founder of Harley Street at Home Menopause
"A must-read for any man... it opens the door to better conversations, deeper empathy, and shared understanding."
Dr Mary Claire Haver, MD, author of The New Menopause
More praise
"An invaluable manual - no married man should approach middle age without it."
Giles Coren, broadcaster and Times columnist
"Menopause impacts everyone, yet men are so often left out of the conversation. This book finally gives them the tools and confidence to navigate this chapter side-by-side with their partners." Jessica Barac, menopause advocate and founder of What The Menopause
"Essential reading for every man who cares about a woman - and themselves." Ian Marber, nutrition therapist and author
"Provides the tools to stay connected through the challenges of menopause... the advocacy for communication and understanding in this book will save relationships." Christine D’Ercole, Peloton instructor and masters world champion cyclist
"A treasure-trove of information - whether you are a husband, son, friend or colleague, this book will help."
Dr Nicky Keay, hormone health expert and honorary clinical lecturer, UCL